Fertility

Through my studies and work as a Hypnotherapist I have seen the power the mind has over the body. Noticing how our thoughts and beliefs affect our bodies. Negative thoughts and beliefs bringing about a negative response. Being able to change physical symptoms by how you feel. Our bodies are constantly influenced by our emotions, thoughts and beliefs which manifest themselves physically affecting the body.

Our experiences show up as symptoms in our bodies. Thoughts, images, sensations and feelings constantly trigger responses, for example when watching a movie we sometimes get so caught in the story that the feelings we get for the characters are quite real.

And the on going dialogue between our thoughts and feelings trigger a response that leads to a chemical, hormonal and neurological change; that can effect the delicate balance of the hormonal system involved in reproduction. We may not consciously be aware of what we are feeling about an event, person or experience yet the body will react to an emotional state and can manifest itself in physical symptoms. This is shown in our everyday sayings, things like “he’s a pain in the neck”, “feeling weak at the knees” and “it made me sick to my stomach”. Even though we have these sayings we are still unaware of the connection between how we feel emotionally and how we feel physically.

Many aspects control our hormonal levels. You may be consciously saying yes to having a baby and yet fail to get pregnant – this may be due to your mind saying no deep down. Emotions can affect the delicately balanced hormonal system which in turn controls ovulation, spermatogenesis and pregnancy.

To develop the perspective needed to conceive you need to view yourself as a fertile person – united in body and mind in the process of having a baby.

Many of us have been conditioned to looking outside of ourselves for healing rather than how can we heal ourselves. Drugs and surgery may on occasion be necessary but an over reliance on them has led us to stop trusting the wisdom of our bodies – our instincts. I am not suggesting that you discontinue any medical treatment but that you use all the resources available to you to achieve you goal. It is important for you to realise, that many couples who are labelled infertile by the medical profession eventually give birth to healthy babies.

Many couples today put off having their children until they can afford it. Waiting until everything is just right, the home, career, everything they believe is needed to be able to offer a child a health happy life. And them when the day arrives they fail to conceive. It is possible that deep down inside unconsciously they are still waiting for the right time. What happens when your doctor says you’ve waited too long – you’re too old.

A doctor in San Francisco, Dr Green, worries that todays fertility specialists often forget than one of the most important aspects of a doctors work is often to give their clients hope. If you convince someone they have no reason to hope the lack of hope will be reflected in their bodies. She says she never says never and has delivered a baby to a 53 year old who had undergone an IVF procedure and another to a women who had her last period the year before.

The media’s (recent) inclination to depict women over 35 who want babies as desperate, caught up in a biological clock panic and having wombs that are too old to work can damage the beliefs of millions of women. Given that thoughts and beliefs stimulate hormonal secretions through our bodies these statements can become biological realities in women who believe they really are too old to have babies.

A national survey carried out by Family Circle magazine reflected these conflicts. The disparity between actual ages and inner images of people in their 40s and 50s was one of the most constant findings. Men just passed 50 still felt like 40 year olds whereas some women felt they were “past it”.

Remember your emotions affect your body and your beliefs become your biology. If you feel young enough to have a baby you probably are.

Some people also find that when they reach a certain age they are discouraged by well meaning family and friends as well as medical professionals.

We are programmed from a very early age to rely on doctors opinions and this very programming can actually affect your well being in certain circumstances. There are times when instead of giving hope medical professionals pass judgement and we with our conditioning believe them……..

1. after failed IVF treatments a 40 year old women was told “if you did get pregnant your baby would have to be delivered by C section due to your advance age”…..
2. another women, 41, was told her eggs were no longer of good quality because of her age.
3. another was told she would not conceive naturally as she and her husband were not now compatible.

These are just a few who managed to prove that doctors are sometimes wrong.

Women over 40 often get pregnant and in spite of medical science’s view births to women over 40 have increased by 50% over the past 20 years. It is even possible to fall pregnant whilst in menopause. Many women hove become pregnant this way whilst believing “they were safe”!

Deepak Chopra MD believes our cells are constantly eavesdropping on our thoughts and being changed by them. Because out mind influences every cell – human aging is fluid and changeable. It can speed up and slow down, stop and even reverse itself. Aging is dependant on the individual. At the deepest level you body is ageless and your mind timeless.

SEXUAL INTIMACY is often affected by the regime of fertility treatments. Your partner feeling pressurised to perform “when the time is right” rather than when desired. You may feel that your body has betrayed you – feeling alienated from your body at a time when you need to be most comfortable with yourself. You may also feel irritable and upset at your partner at a time when intimacy is critical for conception to occur. Many couples complain of a loss of passion and tenderness in the wake of the baby making routine. Working at creating a solid foundation of intimacy with your mate that grows as you face these pressures will help you both through these processes.

Hypnotherapy has proven to be useful in helping with fertility as it can work with your unconscious to address any issues. Creating a satisfactory state of mind and body for pregnancy and labour removing any fears or obstacles whether they be conscious or unconscious, giving you resources and strategies that you can use now and in the future.

"Thought you would like to know that I am now pregnant. I am 13 weeks and have been for my first scan and so far so good. Thank you very much for your help. I am sure the fertility sessions I had with you and listening to the CD etc have been a major factor in our success." - Ursula

a few months on....

"I went in to St Thomas's on Monday 9th evening and they started me off, I then started getting contractions and started to listen to my CD's and remembered the things on them about breathing etc which helped a lot. I found listening to the CD's beforehand really helpful as I drew on the things I had learnt by listening to them to help me cope with the birth experience I had. I even had my husband listening to them during labour to help him cope with the experience!!" - Ursula

"After having fertility treatments for the last three years! I had found myself becoming more despondent and pessimistic as time has gone on. I had completely lost sight of my goal - a baby! Tina's fertility CD has made me take time for myself, completely relaxing and focusing on me. After dwelling on the negatives for so long, Tina and her CD has changed my perspecticve and i now feel excited, optimistic and positive" - A. Q. Oxted

"I've just come back from my third ante-natal appointment in a row in which my blood pressure has lowered each time. The first time it was 130/80 which was not particularly good. After using the techniques you taught me it is now reading 110/65. Our mid-wife was astonished as she said any consultant looking at the reading would think she had made a mistake, so she made a note of how relaxed I was. We also went on a tour of the maternity unit.... I was shocked at how much they affected me - making me very nervous and upset. Using the techniques you taught me I now visualise the birth taking place in one of the delivery rooms with no worries at all." - Owain, Kathie & Freya

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